How to find out, if there’s still a chance to save the relationships? Or maybe it’s time to break up? For people living together for quite some time, such painful questions are not rare. Let’s try to figure them out? If you feel like the most of the criteria below are about you, maybe it’s time to prepare for the worst.
- You feel not ready to “live the life of your partner”.
You or your partner does not feel the urge to keep relationships long and stable. Maybe one of you takes important decisions, that could seriously affect your mutual future without consulting the other party, without considering partner’s interests.
- Promises are not being kept
That’s another criterion of “being whole with your partner” – to always keep promises, regardless them big or not.
- You take decisions without consulting
Decisions, plans like moving to another city, going on a trip or changing of a job without notifying the partner – are all the signals, that one of the partners is already unconsciously preparing for breaking up.
- Lack of respect
It might take different forms. Some people, for example, believe they have to re-educate the partner: criticise everything, telling him/her what to do and whatnot etc.
- Respect is lost
With time, your respect for the partner might change. How could you respect a person, who actually drinks a lot and doesn’t know what he or she is doing, who can’t control impulses?
- Relationships became upstaged
If relationships constantly being pushed by work, children, parents, circumstances, and all that becomes more important than partner’s needs – then it goes without saying how much loyalty partners have left. Maybe it’s time to try Mature Dating Online?
- You feel uncertain and lacking freedom
Can you openly express opinions, without being scared of something? Can you show your irritation, not scared of backlash? Can you go to a party with your friends, do your hobby?
- You have fundamental differences in your life positions
Say, one of the partners likes spending time at home, while the other can’t live without a bustling company. And while something like this might be okay, what if one partner wants to have kids and the other is not? Such fundamentally different opinions can make relationships troublesome.
- Lack of common interests
If partners have nothing in common, apart from their mutual care for children, then forecast for living together is very bad.
- Physical estrangement and distancing
If partners do not want to touch each other anymore, hold each other’s hands, or if one partner cause disgust for the other – it’s a clear sign for breaking up.
If you have a positive answer to many of those criteria, you should seriously consider your relationships. But before taking any serious actions, ask yourself again: “what have I done, what have we done to save our relationships? What have I done to remain?”